The story of a sad man chasing a love beyond his grasp
“Dancing with Dakota” is our latest single. The song tells the story of Eddy, a lonely man who falls in love with a woman who goes by her chosen stage name, “Dakota,” who happens to be an exotic dancer. Dakota's job requires her to be flirtatious and shower affection & attention on her clients, it's all part the job. Eddy on the other hand, mistakes this attention for actual, real love; but despite his deepest wishes, her imagined love for him is just that: imagined.
The song builds up to an uncomfortable realization presented at the end of the bridge, an awkward moment in the story that makes us squirm each time we perform the song: it’s the moment of disillusionment for Eddy, when Dakota reveals that her love exists only in the confines and context of her workplace: the club.
In writing this song, we worked very hard to accomplish three things:
1. We worked hard to ensure that we made no sexual references and we avoided the use of the phrases like "lap dance" or, "takes off her clothes” and so on. This song was never intended to be about sex or even the sexual tension of the venue or occupation, but about the dysfunctional relationship between Dakota and Eddy. We didn't want the song to trade on illicit images or sexual overtones. We sought to tell a story of one of the many forms that love takes.
2. We had to make the character of Dakota, redeemable and relatable. She couldn't be some heartless awful person just there to fleece guys like Eddy of his money. As is the case in real life, real people with real feelings and real lives work in every profession.
3. We had to make Eddy seem sad and a little pathetic, but not creepy or evil. He’s just a man… standing in front of a woman… asking her to love him…
We believe this song is about a type of relationship that happens all across the world, in a variety of professions. Men fall in love their female bartenders, waitresses, even hair stylists as often as they fall in love with their exotic dancers. In many types of roles/jobs, especially those where tips are involved, their is an incentive for friendliness which can often be mistaken for interest..
Notice that at the end of the song, we move to the past tense: "He still dances with Dakota in the backroom of the club.To her it's just a job, but to him it felt like love."
Eddy still goes back to visit Dakota at her place of work. And although the illusion or delusion is now behind him, he now knows this is just a job for her, he still chooses to go back because of how she makes him feel: important, and special. And maybe a little less lonely...
We hope you like this song. We feel it is our best story ever.